I just wanted to comment on your story. It's is very much the same as mine. My 9 year old boy does not tie his shoes or brush his teeth and does not have friends, he will do these things in time because God is good all the Time. I have a little tip to give, when my son is really in a bad mood and not behaving correctly he will make a mean looking face and be very serious, i have found a way to calm him down, when he is making this face i make a very , very funny,goofy face and he does not know what to think and breaks out with wonderful laughter and this seems to calm him down. Have you try anything like this to get your child out of a mad moood?