Does anyone having any suggestions for helping parents dealing with high functioning autistic preteen (female, my daughter) who is going through puberty and dealing with emotions, her period, acne, dieting because she feels fat, and just starting to notice boys--she is 14 years old. She wants to be treated more adult like but when she doesn't get her way....she acts like a two year old....Yelling, howling, and acts like I am killing her literally....a wounded animal especially when she is ready to start her period. She has had some bad experience with her period...severe leg and back pains to the point of crying and howling uncontrollable...pain meds don't work well and she blames me or the doctor..."I am mean to her and I don't love her....when they don't work..."
She throws those same words when I have to make her do her homework over or start writing a report or essay she needs to do. "I am evil and so is school...."but she is my super smart student...she feels she doesn't need to do all of that homework...she understands it so why do teachers make you do some much useless stuff????
There are times I can get through to her and she understands, but then, she forgets and asks me again...I have to repeat it so many times....I sometimes snap and start yelling and I don't want to but I get tired and I have two other children who also need me...her brother is o.k.--no diagnosis and her little sister who is has a speech problem and is in special ed preschool. I know God does give us more than we can handle, but at times I just want to slap her and make her shut up, but then I stop and think about when they tested her back in 1998 and called her retarded and I said to myself--SHE IS NOT RETARDED AND I AM GOING TO SHOW YOU SHE ISN'T.
And she showed them....I was very fortunate to find a daycare with a wonderful and so helpful lady who took in children with disabilities and didn't charge extra....she was sent by God to help me with Katy and Katy blossomed there.....I tell her that she took my little rose bud that didn't want to bloom and gave it the needed nourishment and sunlight that it needed and she opened up and became this beautiful rose flower. Now, I can't get Katy to stop talking because I also had asked God to make my Katy talk. What I forgot to ask was that he give us about a 20 min to 1 hour break in between...ha, ha...
Anyway, I hope someone has some suggestions because she also has trouble at school...kids saying mean and nasty words to each other and to teachers behind their backs and she doesn't like it and worries about H.S. and even college....afraid to go...
Help!!